"In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, But he who restrains his lips is wise."
When I came across this verse a few years ago, I was excited. Here was something I could use to help teach and train my children. At the time I had a son who loved to argue and justify his actions, why he did what he did and why it was right. I used to tell him the more he talked the madder I would get. So I had him memorize this verse and would remind him of it as he started to argue.
But a funny thing happened, I began to internalize this verse. I began to realize that I would talk and talk and talk and I would make my kids feel they had to argue with me. So I slowly began to learn to restrain my lips. I learned to make my words short and sweet, just as it says in Proverbs 16:24. "Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, Sweetness to the soul and health to the bones."
Do I keep this perfectly? No Raising children is a learning process, but by the grace of God, I am learning .